3 Thrilling Tips to Keep Sex Interesting If You’re Trying to Get Pregnant

If you and your partner have been trying to conceive (AKA TTC) for a while, you might have found yourself getting bored of, or even burnt out by all the sex you’ve been having. It’s easy to get stuck in your head about the end result of your romp between the sheets, but the fun doesn’t have to fizzle out! Here’s a list of the Sexyland Fun Specialists’ top tips for X-rated TTC sex!

Talk the talk, then walk the walk

Spending what feels like ages tracking fertility without much luck can place a lot of strain on your connection to each other and put out the fire in your sex drives. Communication is a key factor in any relationship, but it’s especially important when the two of you are dealing with the stress that comes with trying to bring your bub into the world.

Try to avoid talking about having sex purely in clinical terms like ovulation windows, monitoring cervical mucus, optimal sperm count, and other not-so-hot aspects of the reproductive process. Instead, use your words to get your partner’s mind racing and build up anticipation for gettin’ it on! Creating sexual tension is also a great way to sidestep the ‘ugh, again?’ trap that many TTC couples fall into during their conception journeys.

Keep the chemistry alive in your conversations by flirting and talking about sex in an open, yet intimate way. Don’t be afraid to discuss past performances that deserve a high-five, elements that could do with some finetuning, and naughty new things you’re interested in trying out together in future! Try whispering something sultry in their ear while out at dinner to get their mind on a different kind of dessert, or surprise your lucky lover with a dirty daytime sext that will leave both of you keen to come...home that is!

Ditch the strict sex schedule

Loss of spontaneity and intimacy is a surefire way to suck the satisfaction and excitement out of sex. It’s all too easy to fall into a rut of fixating on getting pregnant and treating sex as a business-like transaction, or worse, a time-sensitive monthly chore. The last thing a stressed couple needs is to feel like their partner is only having sex with them just because they need a sperm donor or an incubator.

Loss of spontaneity and intimacy is a surefire way to suck the satisfaction and excitement out of sex. It’s all too easy to fall into a rut of fixating on getting pregnant and treating sex as a business-like transaction, or worse, a time-sensitive monthly chore. The last thing a stressed couple needs is to feel like their partner is only having sex with them just because they need a sperm donor or an incubator.

Resist the urge to put yourselves ‘on a clock’ and take the time to reconnect in a non-sexual way, especially if one or both partners aren’t in the mood. Have a date night with no strings attached and remember what drew you to each other before you decided to have kids together. Even better, rebuild physical intimacy slowly and pamper your partner with no expectation of sex to show how much you care for each other. Nothing says ‘I value you’ like a sensual massage, complete with plenty of deliciously scented massage oil, or a long foreplay session that doesn’t feel like you’re trying to rush each other to an obligatory climax. Re-establish a sex routine when you’re both feeling frisky - it’ll be so much easier to cultivate desire and everything will fall into place with a strong enough bond and patience.

Prioritise fun over function

Sex is supposed to be an enjoyable way to express your passion for your partner, regardless of whether that pregnancy test lights up with one line or two. Scientific research is still inconclusive on whether a woman having an orgasm boosts the odds of getting pregnant or not, but it seems to agree that stress is often part of what’s stopping couples from conceiving.

Y’know what’s great for killing stress?

Orgasms.

The endorphins that orgasms release throughout your body are an effective (and definitely the most enjoyable) tool your body can use to relax, both physically and mentally. It’ll probably come as a huge mental relief to quit obsessing over reproductive results and switch your focus to your and your partner’s pleasure instead. Not only will this take a load of pressure off you two and help facilitate a happier relationship overall, there’s also evidence to suggest that sexual arousal increases the quality of a man’s ejaculate!

Why not give him a helping hand with a sexy roleplay costume based on a naughty fantasy you know he has, or a fun new toy for both of you to enjoy? Sexyland’s customers are raving about the Charged™ Ohare® Vibrating Cockring by Screaming O®, which pulls double duty in keeping him harder for longer while delivering incredible stimulation for both partners! This nifty cockring has rabbit ears for clitoral stimulation and 10 tantalising vibration modes powered by Screaming O’s famous Vooom™ bullet technology! Vooom produces a low-frequency vibration that rumbles instead of buzzing, which creates deep, permeating stimulation and a dramatically different sensation that is sure to lead to an ultra-explosive finish for both of you!

If you’re having trouble balancing trying to conceive, sexual satisfaction, and the health of your relationship, consider talking to your partner about seeing a couples counsellor or a sex therapist. If you suspect infertility issues, consult a medical professional or specialist for advice on what your next steps are.