Nora Jo’s Top Sex Toys & Accessories You Need In Your Goodie Draw

Hey y’all, it’s Nora Jo again, giving you my hard-won advice on the best sex toys and must-have adult essentials you need for a well-rounded goodie drawer! My drawers are full of the best sex toys for female anatomy, with a few male sex devices and couples sex toys as well for my penis-having partners to enjoy, with or without me. After all, everybody has different needs and preferences, and I aim to please whenever I have playmates staying the night… 😏

Female Sex Toys That Elevate Intimate Experiences

I want to preface this by saying that every vulva is different, and what works for me might not work for you, so I encourage you to try a variety of toys and explore what’s out there!

In my own experience, I find that clitoral stimulators and wand vibrators are the best female sex toys for achieving orgasm reliably. However, I’m one of the many women who can’t orgasm with vaginal penetration alone so I need clitoral stimulation to be involved somewhere, and this may not be the case for you. I also personally find it difficult to climax with something inside my vagina, so G-spot vibrators and dildos on their own don’t really do it for me. Rabbit vibrators I can work with since they have a clitoral portion, but the insertable part feels a little distracting to me so it usually takes me a bit longer to get to the finish line than usual. That said, I was pleasantly surprised by how much I enjoyed my Winyi Terry II Rabbit Vibrator, which was also the first thrusting sex toy I ever tried!

Wand vibrators are my favourite female sex toys of all time, and I have a plug-in Doxy Wand Vibrator that I love for deep, rumbly vibrations I can enjoy all over my body on demand, and the cordless Winyi Klaus Wand that’s great if I want to play somewhere other than my bed (since my Doxy is plugged into an outlet behind my nightstand and it’s a pain in the butt to plug or unplug it from said outlet). I also have the teeny-tiny Sexyland Explorer Mini Wand, which is my ride-or-die travel toy! It’s perfect for slipping into my pocket or bag since it’s the same size as a small bullet vibrator (which is also a great goodie drawer must-have) and it gets me off just as reliably as any of my bigger wands, but without the bulk, and without most of the noise too. I can’t think of a better toy to have with me while I’m on the go!

When it comes to clitoral stimulation, I’m happy with either direct vibration or contactless suction, and I own all 3 of the big mainstream clitoral suction toys: the Rose Vibrator inspired by the viral TikTok darling of the early 2020s, the Satisfyer Pro 2, and the Womanizer Premium, which was the OG clitoral suction toy that started the whole category in 2014. However, plenty of women and people with clitorises find that they’re too sensitive to enjoy direct stimulation as it can feel quite overwhelming for all the clitoris’ sensitive nerve endings, and that’s completely normal. For folks who experience this level of sensitivity, contactless suction can be a less overwhelming (but no less satisfying) way to stimulate the clitoris. Female sex toys that use contactless suction create air pressure fluctuations that feel like puffs of air blowing and sucking against the clitoris to produce what feels like a tangible, rapidly ‘fluttering’ sensation without actually touching the sensitive clitoral tissue. This can result in amazing orgasms that have a gentler buildup than vibration and deep intensity, so nobody has to miss out on the fun!

Male Sex Toys: Top Picks for Pleasure & Satisfaction

Given that I’m a cis woman, my recommendations for the best male sex devices are based on a combination of feedback I’ve had from male and penis-having partners, plus my 4 years’ worth of extensive hands-on experience with all kinds of sex toys.

In terms of masturbators and male sex toys designed for penis-stroking purposes, most men I’ve spoken to have said the main reason they haven’t tried them is that they don’t want to deal with a difficult cleanup. Some models are harder to clean than others (especially if the back end is closed and the internal textures are super complex as this can trap bodily fluids), so I prioritise male sex toys made from easy-to-clean, body-safe materials like silicone, preferably with a waterproof design. Through working at Sexyland, I snagged the Satisfyer App-Compatible Vibrating Power Masturbator, which is made from waterproof silicone and has flexible wings that not only accommodate any user’s girth but also make getting inside the sleeve easy so cleanup is a cinch. Inside, it has a pleasurable texture of deep ribs to rub against the tip of the penis and the upper portion of the shaft, making the Satisfyer Power Masturbator a good choice for those who want to focus on head stimulation (AKA the ‘glans’, which is where the penis is most sensitive).

For deeper pleasure that can cover the entire penis without the bulk, a stretchy elastomer sleeve like the TENGA Eggs or a flexible option like the Arcwave Ghost are great choices. The TENGAs are designed to be disposable after a single use so you don’t have to worry about cleanup at all, and the Arcwave Ghost is made from washable silicone for hygienic reuse. The TENGA Eggs have a single texture inside while the Arcwave Ghost is reversible so you can enjoy two textures for double the fun!

Finally, anal toys and prostate stimulators. The level of prostate massager usage that I’ve personally had a hand in has been a G-spot/P-spot attachment to one of my wand vibrators because yes, you can use a G-spot toy as a prostate massager due to their similar shape (as long as there is an anal-safe flared base). My playmate who experienced it had previously enjoyed wearing a small anal plug during PIV (penis-in-vagina) sex, and he described his first experience of vibrations inside his butt as another highlight of his pleasure journey! If you would like a dedicated P-spot toy rather than an attachment, Sexyland’s customers have been loving the Winyi Derek, which vibrates, heats up, and rotates, all with a remote control for maximum versatility and convenience! 

Best Couples Sex Toys For Enhanced Connection & Fun

Remember the Satisfyer Power Masturbator from the previous section? That’s app-compatible, meaning I can control it from anywhere in the world and join in the fun if a partner wants to use it when I’m not around! To be honest, I wasn’t much of an app-compatible sex toys girlie until I got my own We-Vibe Sync 2 (which you can read about in this article of mine), but it really does open up a lot of possibilities in terms of when, where, and how you can play together, even while apart.

Even without app compatibility features, C-shaped vibrators (or ‘couples vibrators’) like the We-Vibe Sync 2 are designed to be used as couples sex toys anyway due to their unique design that can stimulate both people during PIV sex. The wearer inserts the internal arm into their vagina so it rests on their G-spot while the external head sits on the clitoris for dual stimulation, and the internal arm is flattened to leave room for a penetrating partner — everybody wins!

Last but not least, let’s talk about cock rings. These stretchy little guys are male sex toys but they're great for coupled use too since they make sex more fun for both partners! A cock ring is designed to trap blood flow in the wearer's shaft, ensuring their erection stays harder for longer so sex (or masturbation) lasts longer. It also has the added benefit of intensifying the delayed orgasm, giving the wearer a seriously explosive finish, and who doesn't love one of those?

There are also cock rings with protruding parts designed to stimulate a partner's clitoris through vibration, licking, suction, and so on, depending on your preferences. I personally own the Vedo™ Thunder Bunny™ Cock & Ball Ring and the Screaming O® Charged™ Ohare® Vibrating Cock Ring in the XL size, both of which have a dual ring design that fits securely around the shaft and behind the testicles for placement that won't budge, even during, shall we say…vigorous play 😏

Essential Sex Goodies Every Bedside Drawer Should Have

Intimate lubricant

I touched on this in my article about 10 things I learned in 10 years of having sex, but lube is not uncool, and using lube does not make you uncool — lube is your friend! It helps things flow smoothly, which is extra-helpful if your body’s natural lubrication is affected by medication, hormonal changes, or even a nearby fan that’s drying things up a bit faster than normal.

The lubricant I’m using for pretty much everything right now is Wicked’s® Aqua™ Fragrance-Free Water-Based Lubricant, which I love because it goes with all adult toy materials and it just works. It’s also one of the bestselling favourites of Sexyland customers, with plenty of folks coming back to this lubricant because it has a simple, clean recipe that’s vegan-friendly and does what it’s supposed to without having to overthink or fuss about anything.

Condoms

Condoms are an effective way to enjoy total peace of mind when it comes to penetrative sex, especially if you and your partner don’t have up-to-date STI test results, are not using any other method of contraception and don’t want to risk an unexpected pregnancy, or haven’t decided to become fluid-bonded.

Condoms are great for more than just sex though — you can also use these versatile barriers with penetrative sex toys like dildos or insertable vibrators, cutting down on cleanup if you’re planning to share toys among multiple people!

Adult toy cleaner

One of the most frequently asked questions customers ask us is if you really need to clean your sex toys, and if it wasn’t already obvious, the answer to that is abso-freakin’-lutely. It’s important to use adult toy cleaner (or at the very least, a mild, antibacterial soap)to  wash sex toys right away or as soon as possible after play as adult toys come into contact with all sorts of things during and between play sessions, from bodily fluids to dust and debris, and all of this can introduce microscopic bacteria or mould to the surface of your toy where it will multiply unchecked. This bacteria can lead to sexual health and hygiene issues downstairs, regardless of whether you’re the only person using the toy or you’re sharing it with others. On top of that, not cleaning your sex toys can cause the material to break down faster, meaning you won’t be able to enjoy playing with your toy for as long as you should.

Long story short: yes, you need to clean your sex toys, but it doesn’t need to be a laborious, boring chore! I use the Wicked Foam 'N Fresh Anti-Bacterial Toy Cleaner that comes out in a luxuriously fluffy foam and thoroughly coats toy surfaces for easy sanitisation. I’m not squeamish about touching my toys after using them so I massage the foam in for the recommended 10–15 seconds, followed by a rinse, and my toys are always squeaky-clean afterwards!

Ready to give your goodie drawer a refresh? Pop into your nearest Sexyland adult store and chat to the Fun Specialists about what essentials to stock up on, or shop our range of adult sex toys online for 2hr Delivery on selected bestsellers!

Until then, go and put those goodies of yours to good use.

NJ xx