Incorporating Sex Toys into Your Journey to Sexual Well-Being

Everybody deserves pleasure. Sexyland’s mission has always been to take the taboo out of sex toys, as both intimacy aides and for self-care purposes. Sexual health, well-being, and pleasure are all inherently linked together, so using sex toys can produce a multitude of benefits for stress relief and relaxation. After all, what better way to unwind than with an ultra-pleasurable release and floating in the afterglow?

Understanding how sex toys contribute to sexual wellness

Sex toys are items that people use to enhance the pleasure of sexual activities, partnered or solo. There are lots of different types to suit all kinds of people, as well as their desires and comfort levels. It’s totally normal to use or not use sex toys, as long as you’re exercising your choice in a safe, consensual manner that lets you embrace your sexuality how you want to!

People use adult sex toys for many reasons, including:

• Achieving orgasm more easily — for some people, this is the only way they can orgasm, though it’s particularly common in people with vulvas. Regardless of who you are, if you need toys to get off, there’s no shame in that for you or your partner!
• Experiencing different sensations you wouldn’t normally be able to achieve, either on your own or with someone else
• Enjoying yourself solo or with a partner despite being affected by something that can interfere with intimate pleasure. These can be things like sexual dysfunction (such as erectile dysfunction), medical conditions (like anorgasmia), or side effects of certain medications (such as decreased libido)
• Affirming gender identity/alleviating gender dysphoria for people who identify as transgender, nonbinary, or gender non-conforming
• Making it easier (or possible) for people with limited mobility or disabilities to experience sexual pleasure, either through masturbation or sex with a partner

Are there any potential benefits of using sex toys for stress relief and relaxation?

Adult sex toys are one of those rare instances where you can have your cake and eat it too — not only do they feel good, but they’re also good for you! 

There’s a whole host of both physical and mental health benefits of using sex toys for relaxation purposes, including:

• More enjoyment during masturbation and sex — this might seem obvious, but too often, we treat orgasms as the final destination and forget that sex is also about the ~journey~!
• Better sleep — there’s a reason why the afterglow of a satisfying climax often turns into irresistible drowsiness and whisks you away to the land of nod. Orgasms release a cocktail of super-relaxing hormones like oxytocin and prolactin and decrease the body’s level of cortisol, AKA the ‘stress hormone’. This produces a pleasant, calming effect on the mind and body, helping you drift off and enjoy your bed’s other main function…
• Self-discovery — when you know more about how your body works and what makes you feel good, you gain an appreciation for it and the ways it can give you pleasure! Sex toys let you experiment with different sensations and erogenous zones in a safe manner, giving you the gift of knowledge about your own body. This also makes it easier to communicate your desires and give tips to your partner when you’re playing together.
• Building positive self-image — life is full of things that get us down, and sometimes they express themselves through our bodies in the form of sexual dysfunction (such as premature ejaculation), performance anxiety, or poor self-image. If your concerns are not being able to maintain an erection, sex toys like penis pumps, masturbators, and cock rings are designed to give the user a longer-lasting, stronger erection so that they (and their partner) can enjoy the benefits!

Destigmatising Sex Toys for Self-Care

Sex toys are a fabulous way to destress and treat yourself, just like any other self-care method, and we’re thrilled to see them becoming more mainstream. TikTok is helping sex toys like the Rose Vibrator achieve viral acclaim while Aussie celebrities like best-friend-duo Ella Ding and Domenica Calarco of Married At First Sight fame have collaborated with adult toy brands to create their own endorsed sex toys like VUSH’s Ella + Dom Twist Vibrator! The VUSH Majesty 2 Wand Vibrator even featured in Cardi B’s music video for her song Up. All of this representation in common media goes a long way towards fostering wider societal acceptance for adult toys, but of course, it’s perfectly understandable if you’re not ready or don’t want to dive in the deep end.

There are plenty of subtle sex toys out there that will let you enjoy yourself without broadcasting your sexual desires to the whole world, including:

• The Womanizer™ Wave — this 2-in-1 showerhead and clitoral water massager hides in plain sight, ensuring nobody will recognise it for anything other than a showerhead (unless they’re in on the secret too). It has 3 jet types, 1 for luxurious bathing and 2 for clitoral stimulation, so you can relish in stress relief exactly how you like.

• The Hide & Play™ Rechargeable Lipstick Vibrator — this mini bullet vibrator is cleverly disguised to look like a normal tube of lipstick in a sleek rose gold case that’s easy to tuck into a purse or pocket. Under the cap, the angled silicone tip vibrates in 10 whisper-quiet modes to offer precise pleasure for smaller sweet spots like the clitoris or nipples, perfect for enjoying anytime, anywhere!

• The Tenga® Pocket — this disposable masturbator is one of the best sex toys for on-the-go play! The super-stretchy sleeve can cover a 500ml bottle and has a textured interior lined with micro-nubs for 360° of amazing stimulation! It comes in a compact, resealable plastic pouch that fits in your pocket or bag for discreet travel, and you can put your used masturbator in it for hygienic disposal once the fun is done.

Ready to start your journey of self-discovery and sexual wellness? Pop into one of Sexyland’s adult toy shops and chat to our friendly Fun Specialists about what the best sex toys are to suit your personal development, or shop online and browse our range of toys to indulge your sexual fantasies…