BDSM-Curious? Indulge Your Fantasies With These Racy Toys – and That’s An Order

Whether you’re a BDSM beginner or an expert in all things erotic, you can’t deny that there’s a certain allure surrounding the items that are a bit more, shall we say...out there. Sexyland is no stranger to BDSM toys and accessories, and much like pop/R&B queen Rihanna, chains and whips excite us! Don’t fret if you’re not into anything that hardcore or are just new to the BDSM scene though – you don’t necessarily have to be an advanced user of sex toys to enjoy these BDSM accessories, you just need to be open to learning new things about how you and your partner like to play while keeping communication open. Remember the SCC (Safe, Sane & Consensual) and RACK (Risk-Aware Consensual Kink) principles for safe kinky sex, pick a safe word, and get ready to take a walk on the wild side...

BDSM accessories to remind your lover of their place

While the human body is full of physical erogenous zones that are loads of fun to explore and stimulate, don’t forget that sexual pleasure starts in the mind. Getting into the right headspace goes a long way towards getting you both in the mood to enjoy a scene or roleplay together, and this can be through simple means like having a specific name or title you call each other in the bedroom, or wearing certain items when it’s time to get down.

A great place for any dom/sub relationship to start is with a collar to represent consensual ownership, protection, and a promise between the two parties to serve each other in their own ways. Sexyland’s BDSM collar collections include many different styles to suit any aesthetic and there are also variants you can attach leashes or padlocks to for a more intense level of control! Our customers are loving this luxe leather Roomfun collar and leash set, which comes with a bright gold chain and either a navy blue or rich burgundy leather collar and wrist loop in case you feel like adding a pop of colour to your BDSM accessories.

For something that ups the ante, a gag is the perfect way to take things a step further! Gags remove the wearer’s ability to talk and strip them of some of their agency, giving their Dominant figure more power over them. Of course, just because they’re wearing a gag doesn’t mean you can’t still enjoy a little oral fun! A gag that holds the wearer’s mouth open like the Poison Rose - Silicone Blowjob Lips ensures you can still put whatever you want in the wearer’s mouth while keeping their teeth out of the way. Why not add a yummy flavoured water-based lubricant to help things glide smoothly and give them a tasty treat while you’re at it? 😏

Sensory deprivation BDSM accessories

Sensory deprivation involves denying one or more senses to intensify the others, adding an element of mystery and surprise to your fun! The most common way to indulge in this is by denying sight, and you can get creative by combining a blindfold with headphones playing white noise or a certain kind of music, or feeding them certain foods and having them guess what they are.

A simple but stylish blindfold like this red and black brocade number by Scandal® helps to block out all light for a complete blindfold experience with a contoured nose slot for a comfortable fit, or you can ramp it up with something more full-coverage like this open mouth hood! This one is made of lightweight spandex to obscure vision while making breathing and hearing easy so the wearer doesn’t miss a single one of your instructions.

Sexy sensation play BDSM toys

Sensation play covers everything from the lightest touch of a feather tickler to the hair-raising jolt of an electric shock and spans the entire spectrum of pain and pleasure. For BDSM toys on the lighter side, Sexyland loves the Roomfun - Fluffy Nipple Clamps, which provide an exquisite pinching sensation to the nipples in addition to the plush, fluffy balls brushing softly against the chest.

On the opposite end of things, why not try your hand with a Wartenberg pinwheel? These medical-inspired sensory instruments feature a series of spikes that provide a gentle pricking sensation as they roll over the skin, which is sure to be erupting with goosebumps...

Put the B in BDSM with bondage accessories

Restraint play is a fabulous way to exercise control and truly indulge in your lover’s body at your leisure. The deep sense of trust and suspense can be positively intoxicating and is sure to elevate any erotic experience!

To get in and out of a bondage scene quickly, it doesn’t get much easier than bondage tape. This reusable black tape sticks to itself (not skin) for a painless experience, and you can trim it for custom lengths and easy removal afterwards!

For something a little more involved, the Fetish Fantasy Series - Web Bed Restraint System lets you take things up a notch and fits over any size mattress to easily adjust your captive into all sorts of saucy positions...

BDSM sex toys to indulge your inner disciplinarian (or your partner’s)

Why should you settle for anything less than perfect obedience from your lover? If they’re the cheeky type or enjoy making you work for your satisfaction, let them know you mean business with some BDSM accessories that give you the upper hand during racy roleplays!

Impact play is a classic method of a Dominant controlling a submissive, dishing out a spanking, flogging, or paddling as punishment, or even as a reward, depending on what you’re both into. For a deep, cathartic thudding sensation rather than a sting, nothing beats a soft suede flogger. The velvety falls are great for gently caressing the skin and trailing teasingly over your partner’s body to build up anticipation for where the next hit is going to land!

If you like a sharper, more unforgiving sting or slapping sensation, this spiked leather spanking paddle is sure to do more than just tickle your fancy. With one smooth and supple side for firm spanks and another with biting circular spikes, you can decide just how intense the experience is...

Control your partner’s sexual pleasure with BDSM toys

Whether you’re in the mood to have your lover beg you for sweet release or you want to watch them have their cake and eat it too, orgasm control is a serious power trip.

Leave your boy toy on the edge of his seat with a sturdy cock cage that ensures he can keep his hands anywhere but himself! All of Sexyland’s BDSM toys in the cock cage category feature open-ended designs so the wearer can still relieve themselves in the bathroom, but not in the bedroom.

Alternatively, if you’re feeling generous, give your sub all the orgasms they could ever want and more with a Forced Orgasm Belt! This unique harness straps securely around the wearer’s pelvis and holds a wand vibrator (sold separately) against their sensitive genitals and, well...you can figure out the rest.

If we’ve inspired any creative thinking for weekend lockdown plans, check out Sexyland’s BDSM toys and accessories online and don’t be afraid to indulge your innermost desires...