Sex Machines & Relationship Dynamics: Enhancing or Replacing Intimacy?

With the rise of the mainstream popularity of sex toys, it’s not uncommon for people to wonder or worry what impact sex toys will have on their relationships and intimacy dynamics, and that can be especially the case for sex machines, which are basically sex toys cranked up to 11. However, just like any other adult toys, sex machines are a tool designed to enhance intimacy, between partners or during solo self-love sessions, not override it or replace an emotional connection in a relationship or during sex. Sex toys are there to support you and boost your satisfaction during bedroom endeavours; they’re your teammates, not your competition!

What are sex machines?

Sex machines are one of those adult toys that sound a lot more intense and intimidating than they really are, but regardless of your experience level, they can be an exciting addition to your sex life, or even as an accessibility aide for folks who aren’t able to perform all the physical labour involved in sex or masturbation. They’re essentially automatic sex toys that can support themselves while thrusting a toy back and forth on the end of a telescopic rod, meaning there’s no need for a person to manually operate the toy or use their hands for anything other than holding themselves in position or providing further stimulation for themselves to enjoy! They can be used solo but are also one of the best couples sex toys to enhance intimacy between partners, as well as spicing things up — after all, with the sex machine taking care of one task, that leaves a partner free to focus on exploring, indulging, and stimulating their partner in other ways…

Sex machines are fully customisable and can do all the thrusting at any depth, speed, and angle you set it at, making it a truly hands-free pleasure option, and they aren’t just for women or people who enjoy being penetrated either — sex machines can be compatible with a wide variety of sex toys, such as dildos, vibrators, anal beads, male sex toys like masturbators, and so on, meaning they can work for people of any gender with any stimulation preferences, and in any relationship.

How can couples introduce sex machines into their relationship?

Couples can introduce a sex machine into their relationship the same way as they would introduce any sex toys in general, which is by having an open, honest discussion about how you think adding a sex machine to your bedroom fun would boost excitement and sexual satisfaction. Both people should discuss desires and describe what they’d like to get out of the experience of using a sex machine, as well as how they think they would go about achieving that. You should also think about what your boundaries are around sex machines and be open about them, as well as any worries or insecurities you or your partner may have so you can avoid any awkward misunderstandings (or worse, unenjoyable experiences) during playtime. If necessary, reassure your partner that when it comes to sex and intimacy, they’re still the main event and you’re not trying to replace them with the understudy!

The best sex machines to buy at Sexyland

• The Mod Love Deluxe Thruster Sex Machine Kit — a textbook example of the quintessential sex machine, Sexyland’s customers have been loving this little number! The ultra-strong yet surprisingly quiet motor delivers unmatched performance to fill you with satisfaction (and more), thrusting a full 2 inches per stroke at incredible speeds of over 200 strokes a minute. The included realistic dildo attachment hits your G-spot or P-spot just right, or you can pair this sex machine with your favourite accessory from Doc Johnson's® Vac-U-Lock™ range for even more versatility and fun!

• The Kiiroo Keon Interactive Automatic Masturbator & FeelStroker Set — for the ultimate handheld stroking sex-perience, it doesn’t get much better than a Kiiroo Keon set! The included masturbator looks and feels like a real vagina and strokes itself up and down your erection’s length up to 230 times a minute, focusing wherever you want to intensify the sensation of the sleeve’s interior texture. It’s packed with advanced Bluetooth technology and is app-compatible to offer more ways to play, including long-distance with a partner or synced to interactive adult video content, including 2D, Virtual Reality, and even interactive webcam performers so you can enjoy exactly what you see onscreen in real-time!

• The Lust Remote Control Vibrating Dual Rider Grind-On Massager — if you’re after something non-penetrative, this grinding pad is the perfect addition to bedroom play! It has a uniquely contoured shape with two ribbed mounds that both have their own independent 12-mode vibrating motors and are shaped for versatile stimulation across the clitoris, vulva, testicles, perineum, and anal entrance. Enjoy both vibrating mounds solo, or you and a partner can take one each if you’re of the opinion that sharing is caring…

Ready to dive into the wonderful world of sex machines? Check out our range at your nearest Sexyland store, or shop Sexyland online and enjoy free standard delivery on all orders, or add our lightning-fast 2hr Delivery at checkout for just an extra $20!