Sexynews #19 Get Locked Down Into Bondage

Do you have a naughty partner who wants to flout lockdown or are you a little bored at home and want some creative ways to enhance your lockdown experience? Well, we suggest you put your lover into total lockdown with some bondage restraints and administer some disciplinary measures for their insolent behaviour! We’re sure we have some exciting ways to punish that naughty boy or girl!

What is BDSM?

Many couples enjoy bondage for many different reasons. BDSM is short for bondage & submission, sadism & masochism. It’s up to each individual couple how far they wish to dive into the kinky world of BDSM. Since this lifestyle is more about the power play, it doesn’t always have to involve sexual penetration but that doesn’t mean it can’t. BDSM can be an incredibly erotic way for couples to enjoy and enhance their sexual experiences as well.

Balance of Power:

Bondage alters the balance of power which can benefit couples in many ways. An individual who is typically dominant in nature may enjoy the shift of balance, allowing them to embrace a more submissive role. Sometimes, the submission to a lover provides a welcome avenue of emotional and sensual release. Alternatively, a submissive person may enjoy taking a more dominant role in bed. Playing a dominant role can provide a sense of control and empowerment that might not be as easy to attain outside of the bedroom. Bondage can be both rewarding and freeing of the mind, body and soul as it offers an escape from everyday life.

Trust & Intimacy:

Because of the nature of BDSM, it requires a certain level of trust between both parties. Couples find that engaging in bondage can also build and strengthen the trust that already exists between them. It enables couples to achieve a deeper form of intimacy through a shared, intensely sensual experience. Being restrained can be frightening yet exhilarating all at once. By willingly giving up control to your lover, you are entrusting him or her with complete control over your body. This can be incredibly exhilarating to both.

Imagination:

A healthy BDSM relationship must always be consensual for it to meet the needs of both partners. Bondage takes your imagination to an entirely new level of excitement, freeing both of you to engage in a fantasy full of dark pleasures. BDSM enables you to experience your lover in a new and exciting way which can have a riveting effect on your sexual desire for each other.

Considering BDSM?

If you haven’t considered bondage before, imagine yourself or your lover in a position of control and the other becoming the submissive. Open your mind and really think about it. Imagine yourself taking control of your partner and administering erotic punishments and then imagine your partner taking control over you and doing the same to you. How did your body respond? Which role turned you on the most? This feeling of excitement that you may experience, could become a reality if both partners are willing and eager to try this.

Beginner BDSM:

If you’re new to bondage or considering it, we suggest starting with soft bondage. First, you must both know and understand your limits. It’s usually advised to discuss potential boundaries ahead of time. Let each other know what your limits are. Most importantly, agree to a safe word that the submissive can use to let the dominant know their limits have been reached. Once that has been established, you can begin to test the waters and start experimenting. We recommend adding some sex toys and bondage accessories to your first time experience.

Blindfolds, Whips & Paddles:

Blindfolds are probably the #1 favourite way to dip your toes into the water. Wearing a blindfold heightens the experience by forcing the submissive to solely rely on what he or she feels. Every touch or every kiss is suddenly intensified through anticipation alone. This is where introducing a feather tickler comes in handy. Because your submissive’s senses are at a heightened state of arousal, even the slightest touch from a feather can make his or her skin feel like it’s on fire. Intensify this experience further by taking it to the next level with a flogger or a paddle. The tassels on a flogger can be used for both pleasure and pain intermittently. You can gently brush the tassels along his or her skin, eliciting a teasing sensation then bare down with a swat for an even deeper sensation. Bring in the paddle for even more intensity.

Restraints:

Another bondage favourite is the use of restraints. Being tied up can sometimes be a liberating experience in that you are giving up total control and no longer have to worry about doing anything. You simply resign yourself to experience what comes next. The dominant is now in control. He or she must choose what to do next. Restraining the submissive allows the dominant to have total control over the experience. It’s best to start with something soft to allow your submissive to get used to the feeling of being restrained comfortably. Furry metal cuffs, leather restraints and silk ropes are often good choices. The objective here is for both parties to enjoy their experience so keep this in mind if you are the one in control.

BDSM Sex Toys You Need:

Other sex toys that make the experience more exciting include vibrators, butt plugs, gags, collars and leashes. These are usually best to introduce after you’ve warmed up to the idea of bondage and are ready to experiment more but are still quite enjoyable for the beginner to try.

We sell a wide assortment of BDSM Sex Toys that are perfect for beginners. 

• Blindfold (always a great starter item)
• Fluffy Metal Cuffs (a comfortable way to adjust to restraints)
• Ouch! Beginner’s Bondage Kit (mask, gag, leather hand & leg cuffs, flogger & tickler
• Ouch! Intro Bondage Kit #1 (mask, furry cuffs & flogger)
• Ouch! Intro Bondage Kit #2 (mask, soft cuffs, tickler & sex dice)
• Ouch! Intro Bondage Kit #3 (mask, paddle & furry cuffs)
• Ouch! Intro Bondage Kit #4 (mask, cuffs, gag, paddle & tickler)
• Ouch! Intro Bondage Kit #5 (mask, gag, rope, butt plug & paddle)
• Ouch! Intro Bondage Kit #6 (mask, collar, leash, furry cuffs, gag, tickler, sex dice & flogger)

Intermediate BDSM:

When you’re ready to take your bondage play to the next level, also known as the intermediate level, you may want to introduce some other new toys into the play. This is where you may want to move from tying up your submissive to positioning these ropes around the body in ways that stimulate the breasts or genitals when they move. You may want to try other devices like swings that allow the dominant to suspend his or her submissive in the air for absolute access to all parts of the body. Cock cages for men are an excellent way to control his climax as you tease and punish him. They prevent a man from becoming erect which allows you to control his ability to climax. Nipple clamps are also an effective way to tease and torment your submissive. Candle wax is also an excellent sensory tool for pleasure and pain.

Next Level Fun:

For the sake of safety, it’s best to use tools that are designed to be used safely. Our Drip Candles are perfect for those who want to engage in wax-play as they are safe to use yet provide the heated experience when dripped onto bare skin. The Scandal Over the Door Sex Swing is designed for comfort and pleasure anywhere you can attach it to a door. The Ouch! Intermediate Bondage Kit is perfect for those wanting to expand beyond the beginner phase into bondage. It contains nearly everything you will need such as a ball gag, leather hand and leg cuffs, eye mask, flogger, tickler, silk rope, hogtie connector for more intense restraining techniques, nipple clamps and a leather collar with metal leash.

At this level, you’ll likely want to spice things up even more with some erotic fetish wear. We have the straps and leather that you need to complete the look and get fully into the role. Fetish lingerie reflects the mood and represents the kind of sexual adventure you want to have.

Hardcore BDSM:

If you’re past the point of experimenting and definitely interested in going hardcore, there are some things you may want to consider. Hardcore bondage is for those who truly love the feeilng of pain. Hardcore bondage can be pretty extreme. In fact, if you’re not careful, it can be dangerous. You really do need to know what you’re doing and understand and respect one another’s limits.

Pleasure & Pain:

When engaging in hardcore bondage, many of the usual BDSM toys such as ropes, gags, handcuffs, whips, crops, etc… are included but how you use them changes. With hardcore bondage, the submissive wants to feel pain and the sadist (dominant) is the one who inflicts the pain. The playing field is much rougher and punishment much harsher. Many couples who reach this level also engage in a master/mistress versus slave relationship. On this level, the submissive wants to be owned and this lifestyle sometimes bleeds into everyday life as well. This type of BDSM is truly about giving and receiving pain.

Hardcore Toys:

When it comes to hardcore bondage, we have the toys and the tools you will need to go the full hog! We know pleasure and pain can be FUN and if you have the right gear, you can make it as masochistic as you want. Many couples may want to try a bit of shock therapy to bring on that sting of pleasurable pain. Sex machines are also a favourite for many hardcore bondage enthusiasts. If things are going to get messy, you may also want to try the Scandal Super Sheet to protect your bedding from the sexy fun.

While hardcore bondage is exciting for many couples, it’s not for everyone. That doesn’t mean that bondage can’t be fun and exciting. You don’t have to go hardcore to enjoy the benefits of BDSM. You can choose what level is right for you and take from it what works best for you and your relationship.