Get Racy in the Bedroom this Spring with BDSM Whips, Saddles, Tail Butt Plugs & More!

Ready to saddle up for a journey of kinky fun with all your favourite fetish toys? To tie in with the upcoming Melbourne Cup public holiday, we’re taking a look at pony play and all the bondage sex toys you can use while you’re, ahem, horsing around. Whether this upcoming weekend is a standard 2-day affair or you’re a lucky Victorian who planned ahead and took Monday off to get a 4-day long weekend, you’re in for a fun ride with these BDSM toys! 🏇

But first up, what is pony play?

Pony play is a type of pet play or animal roleplay where at least one person dresses up and/or acts how a horse would, which can involve engaging in equine training and taking on horse-like behaviour and mannerisms. There can be a variety of tools and equipment used, such as riding crops, saddles and harnesses, reins, bit gags, butt plugs with horse tails attached, hoof boots or mitts, and so on. The other person/people involved usually takes on the role of the pony owner or trainer and is in charge of wielding the riding crop, fitting the harness and tack, etc., making them the Dominant partner in most pony play scenarios. The submissive pony can be someone who identifies as a person and is ‘forced’ to act like a pony (in a consensual non-consent kind of way), or they can voluntarily engage in the animal roleplay.

Exploring the World of Whips: A Guide to Pleasure & Pain

Regardless of if you’re getting into pony play or just indulging in some kinky fun, impact play toys are a popular part of BDSM and it’s normal to feel overwhelmed by the sheer amount of choice there is. These are a step up from using a bare hand to spank or slap the other person and offer a variety of different sensations, though the main two camps said sensations fall into are ‘thuddy’ (deep, punchy) and ‘stinging’ (sharp, biting). Generally, the wider the instrument and the bigger the area of impact, the thuddier it will feel. Always start with light impact to warm up the receiver’s body and ease them into the scene (unless they specifically ask to start with firmer strikes).

• Riding crops — since these fetish sex toys only target a small area of the body, they deliver a stinging sensation in a concentrated area. They’re a great place for beginners to start and are available in leather or vegan options. One of Sexyland’s favourites is the Scandal Split Tip Riding Crop, which is double-layered for a louder smacking sound without necessarily needing more force, perfect for subs with low pain tolerances!
  
  
• Floggers — these consist of many tails or ‘falls’ attached to a sturdy handle and come in many designs and styles to suit both the wielder and the recipient. Floggers lean more to the thuddy side of things, though depending on what kind of material the tails are made of, this will impact how stingy the sensation is — firmer materials like stiff leathers (real or vegan) and even barbed falls will sting while soft materials like conditioned leather, suede, and knotted or braided falls (which feel heavier than the individual falls on their own) will feel more thuddy. The more tails there are, the heavier the overall impact will feel, leaning more towards thuddy than stinging.
  
  Floggers with long tails are harder to control compared to short-tailed floggers, and long tails also have the potential to wrap around the receiver’s body, which can deliver more force than intended to the area the ends of the falls land on, so if you’re not a confident wielder, start with a shorter model and position yourselves far apart enough that the tails can’t wrap around the other person’s body.
  
  A great flogger for beginners is the ZYL Faux Leather Flogger with Chain Finger Loop as it’s nice and small and can be swung like normal from the handle, or in a smooth, looping motion with the chain around a finger! For more experienced wielders, the Yiwu Metal Chain & Faux Leather Flogger will intensify the stinging sensation, and you can even dip the metal falls in different temperatures of water to experiment with temperature play…
  
  
• Paddles — these intense spanking tools tend to blend thuddy and stingy sensations together (though if you’re using light swats, it will feel more thuddy than anything else) and come in a variety of materials and firmnesses to deliver any intensity of smack you want. From solid wood for an unforgiving, hard impact to flexible rubber for more of a harsh sting, there’s something for everyone in this category. For a balance of punishment and pleasure, the Enchanted Heart Paddle from Sex & Mischief has a firm side and another side covered in soft faux fur to cushion the blow and offer a gentler touch.
  
  
• Canes — for maximum stinging power, you can’t go past the classic cane! These fetish sex toys are thin to concentrate all that pain and sensation across a tiny area, and come in varying levels of rigidity. However, no matter how solid or bendy your cane is, you can trust that it’s going to feel sharp and biting every time. This Intense Impact Cane from Mistress by Isabella Sinclair is sure to keep any unruly or disobedient subs in line without too much fuss…
  
  
• Whips — these are the most intense fetish sex toys on this list, blending both thuddy and stinging sensations, and have the highest potential to cause harm if not used properly. If you’re planning to use whips in your scene, ensure that both people are confident in the whip-thrower’s skill. Longer whips are harder to control and also have more weight to them, meaning they build up more momentum when swung and have a more intense impact, so if you’re just starting out with whips, pick a shorter option.
  
  It’s also a good idea to position the receiver as far away as possible from the whip while still being within striking range (which may involve both people standing far apart depending on the length of the whip). You basically just want the cracker (the part at the tip of the whip that makes that crack sound) to lightly kiss the receiver’s skin. The cracker is literally moving faster than the speed of sound, causing a mini sonic boom, which is what the whip’s iconic cracking noise is. It can break skin at that speed, so trust us when we say you don’t want to be up close to feel that when it comes down!

How can I safely use whips in my intimate play?

Curious about how to actually use your fetish toys safely and properly?

First up, communicate openly about your preferences, boundaries, and triggers that you want to avoid as this will help guide where your impact instrument lands. Make sure everyone knows the safeword and that using it at any time they want to is not only acceptable, but encouraged.

Generally, the meatier the area of the body, the safer it is to hit. That doesn’t mean you can’t hit less fleshy areas necessarily, but you should exercise more caution and significantly reduce the intensity of the impact, depending on where it is.

The safest parts of the body to whip are:

• Buttocks
• Fronts and backs of the thighs
• Outer thighs

Exercise caution around:

• pectorals/breasts
• upper arms and forearms
• hands
• inner thighs
• backs of the shoulders
• backs of the calves
• genitals (yes, there’s a whole category of BDSM around cock and ball torture, but this also has to be practised with caution)

Restrict impact to LIGHT taps only on:

• face/head/ears
• areas with bones close to the surface (collarbones/front of the shoulders, hips, front of the knees and calves, feet)
• front and back of the midriff (this is where a lot of our internal organs are)

Areas that should always be avoided include:

• joints (wrists, inner elbow, behind the knees, back of the ankle)
• areas with major veins close to the surface (neck, wrists)

Other factors to consider include:

• the receiver’s pain tolerance
• both people’s level of hunger or dehydration at the time — you don’t need to have eaten a full meal before a session, but it’s good to be aware that a person’s limits might be lower than usual if they haven’t eaten or had enough water that day
• both people’s current stress level

It may sound like a lot of things to keep in mind, but most of these things will likely be discussed before you even start, and if you pay attention to each other’s body language and facial expressions, you’ll know if you’re on the right track or not.

Tail Butt Plugs: Adding A Playful Twist to Anal Exploration

Even if you’ve played with butt plugs before, there’s a good chance you’ve never tried one with a tail. Not only do these take things up a notch when it comes to animal roleplay, but they can also add extra stimulation by letting the wearer or a partner gently repeatedly pull on the tail portion to provide a feeling of resistance or light thrusting. Something like the Unicorn Tails Butt Plugs (which are available in all sorts of fun colours) is the perfect addition to a fun weekend in 😉