Setting the Scene - Sexynews #28

Throughout your life, you’re probably going to have all kinds of sex. There will most likely be novel worthy ‘love making passion’, a few regrettable decisions, experiments that didn't turn out as planned, quickies on the sly or those moments when pleasure and pain are intertwined into some BDSM fetish fun. Whichever the occasion, it’s important to always be ready to set the right scene for the most embarrassment free, mind blowing sex, no matter which occasion it is! Trust me, you’ll thank me later.

Create an Atmosphere:

Depending on the type of sex you intend on having, if you find yourself planning on a good sex session at home, the atmosphere you create will be essential. If it's romantic love you want to make, set the atmosphere so that it reflects romance. The bedroom has to feel sensual and inviting. If you want your partner to feel a certain mood, the music can help set it. During sex, music can maintain the mood, create an atmosphere, and set a rhythm you can follow.

If you intend on a hot and heavy BDSM session, set the music accordingly. Some erotic, sensual heavy metal can be especially hot for this type of atmosphere. You could try some H.I.M., James D. Stark or Type O Negative but everybody's taste is different so go with what works for you! Depending on the type of mood you wish to emit, there are many great music apps out there where you can find any genre of music that works for you.

Set the Lighting:

Set the lighting level low and light some candles. The Wildfire Warming Oil Chalice will light the room with a soft, flickering glow and you can personalise the fragrance with your choice of a combination of essential oils. Find the perfect fragrance for the perfect occasion with our range of Wildfire Collection. 

Step the sex play up a notch with some DONA Kissable Massage Candles and ignite a deliciously playful mood. Not only will these candles create a super sexy, ambient atmosphere, they're perfect for those who love to drizzle a bit of candle wax over each other. Lick or kiss the wax away or use it to lubricate the fun a bit. You won't be disappointed!

Dress for the Occasion:

We receive thousands of visual cues and images daily, from the latest TikTok video to smiles from friends, etc... Sight is a commanding sense! Visual stimulus can play a huge part in our sexuality and sex lives as well, and when we see something that we find pleasurable, our body reacts.

Sexual visual stimuli is everywhere but men and women are a little bit different when it comes to erotic stimuli, but there are some similarities! When couples bring visual stimuli into their relationship, explosive things can happen and there’s nothing more explosive than seeing your partner dressed in some raunchy and revealing lingerie to get that arousal going.

Visual Stimulation for Men:

When men receive visual stimulation a lot of things begin to transpire such as faster heart rate, increased blood flow, erection, and pupil dilation. The reward centre of their brain lights up and they may experience a tense, giddy feeling. Visual stimulation is a powerful part of human arousal, and contributes to sexual excitement and enjoyment overall. Visual stimulation gives us strong erotic cues and feeds our desires, stimulating fantasies and the imagination. Men tend to rely heavily on visual stimulation. This is often the quickest way to get his attention.

Visual Stimulation for Women:

When women are visually stimulated, many of the same reactions occur that happen with men. She may experience: faster heart rate, increased blood flow, pupil dilation, and a giddy sensation accompanied by a ‘flushed’ appearance. Visual stimulation presents sexual desire and eroticism mentally for women. Strong visual stimulation can enhance her confidence, stoke her imagination, and encourage her to be bolder and more involved sexually.

The Romantic Love Making:  

For some romantic, milestone love making, including some cute yet sexy outfits will always create the right setting. Nothing says  ‘I love you’ more than the sexy Sunspice 4 Piece Set. or the Coquette Babydoll and G String for her and the Male Power Kiss Me Mini Short or Male Power Stretch Lace Bong Thong for him.  If you’re looking to increase both pleasure and intimacy, consider experimenting with Couples Sex Toys with partnered play in mind. Using sex toys are far from being a sign that your intimacy is somehow lacking. Using pleasure products with your partner shows that you're open to exploration and adventure. In fact, shopping for a toy together can even count as foreplay. You can even browse together online from your bed.

Other Romantic Toy Ideas: 

The We-Vibe Chorus is next level sex! The most intuitive couples vibrator by We-Vibe® ever - with an adjustable fit, touch responsive controls and hands-free vibrations that takes sex to a whole new level. 

Available with our Sexyland Quickie 1-2hr delivery, the Wireless Clit Flicker Cock Ring pleasures her with an extending tongue that directly stimulates the clitoris with a powerful bullet buzzing in precisely the right spot for ultimate climatic sensations. This is the perfect choice for couples who need something right away!

Check out our huge range of Toys And Stimulators that will guarantee to take your love making to the next level.

The Zero Inhibitions Sex:  

Whether it happens when you're feeling extra ballsy on vacation or when you're one wine over your limit, this sex is when you totally let go. You'll turn up the volume, try things you haven't had the guts to before, and drive both you and your partner completely wild. 

You’re going to want to be wearing something that is ultra sexy and open, so that there’s little left to the imagination. Maybe you aren't brave enough to let him or her rip off your clothes but you loved the ripped look. Try The Glitter Rip Me Up lingerie! The Sunspice Teddy is also super alluring. Both will have you confidant for that totally let go sex! For him the Male Power Grip And Rip Thong will have him turning up the volume! 

Zero Inhibition Toy Ideas:  

While you’re feeling adventurous and care free, consider including some sex toys that will boost the excitement to the next level! The Ouch! Silicone Strapless Strap On requires no harness, so there is nothing that comes between you and your lover with the exception of your own intense pleasure together.

Or if you really feel like letting go, the Her Royal Harness-The Queen is a premium universal harness with reinforced stitching and back support strap. It has a discreet snap design to accommodate any size ring. The double-sided vegan leather is soft and comfortable.

And there’s nothing more wild and fun than some anal play. Our Booty Call-X-10 Beads are available with our Sexyland 1-2 hour quickie delivery service. We have a huge range of Anal Play toys that will turn up the volume and the pleasure! 

The BDSM Session: 

Sexual thrill-seeking isn't for everyone, and that's more than okay, but admit it: There's something out there that excites you as much as it makes you nervous. Whether it ends up being awesome or awful, it's pretty brave to check something off your list that you definitely have been wanting to try. And if you do intend on trying it, you definitely want to be ready for it! This is not something you just want to jump right into unprepared. 

BDSM Essentials:  The essentials for a raunchy BDSM session are the right outfit and the right toys. For starters, the seriously sultry Allure Halternect Corset for her and the sexy Sunspice- Mens Fetish Wear for him will set the perfect scene for some fetish play!

For those new to the Fetish scene, a must have is the Ouch! Bondage Beginners Kit. The Nipple Play Silicone Vibrating Nipple Pleasurizers are also a great way to introduce yourself and your partner to the exhilarating world of BDSM.

For those more seasoned to the world of BDSM, there’s no such thing as too much variety! The Master Series Chained Collar and Nipple Clit Clamps features a set of four clamps attached by matching chrome chains that let you apply exquisite pain to your subject's nipples, vagina or testicles. This set allows you to pull and tug your plaything around as you please, adding that extra pressure which will leave them begging for mercy and screaming in ecstasy. Shop our full range of Fetish Play for the right tools that’ll bring your subject to their knees and begging for more! 

The Quickie on the Go:  

Sometimes, you only have a limited amount of time to do the deed. But a tight schedule doesn't mean speedy sex has to be anything less than satisfying. In fact, the urgency of quickie sex can make for better romps. In some cases, this calls for ditching penetration altogether and instead focusing on oral sex, manual clitoral stimulation, or a high school–style make-out, if that’s what gets you going. Even with a time constraint, all that matters is that you get what you want out of the experience and that you’re able to connect. Whatever form a quickie takes for you and your partner, there are plenty of tricks and toys to make sure it's one to remember, even if it barely lasts five minutes.

Whether you are a new couple who can't keep your hands off each other or married with kids, spontaneous sex is the perfect way to stoke your libido, beat predictability and performance pressure, and add another dimension of excitement and trust to a relationship.

Dress Prepared for Spontaneity:  

If you think a quickie on the go is potentially in the cards, it’s important to dress for easy access. That doesn't have to mean you need to dress baggy and not sexy. Some good old fashioned jeans will do just fine. Or if the weather is warmer, a dress or a skirt is always a winner! If you're feeling adventurous, try our Sunspice Bodystocking. There are a million ways you can work this into your wardrobe but we'll leave that for you to decide. 

For him, the Male Power Zip it Pouch Short allows for easy access but we have much more in stock. Have a look through our huge range of easy access Clothing & Lingerie to find something that’ll suit your quickie on the go! We also carry an exciting range of Lingerie for Him too!

Quickie Sex Ideas:  

Our Quickies Mini Book contains 50 morning, nooner, and night erotic positions to show you how to master fast hand jobs, oral techniques, and positions for every time of day. Whether you're looking to bring yourself (or your partner) to climax fast--or create a teaser for a longer session later, each technique will show you how to create excitement and satisfaction in minutes. The petite mini-book format makes it fun to try new techniques anywhere! With every page, you'll be on your way to fast, yet fabulous sex.

On the Go Sex Toy Ideas:  

Having the right toys on hand that are discreet and easy to carry for that spur of the moment sex is important. Finger Vibrators are especially useful for spontaneous quickie sex play! They are small and inconspicuous enough to carry in your handbag or to keep stored safely in your glove-box! The Jopen Pave Liz is perfect for anybody! You can use this little vibe on any erogenous zone with climatic results!

Bullet & Egg Vibrators are a perfect choice for spontaneous sex on the go adventures. These toys might be small in size but they pack a punch when it comes to power. The Rechargeable Mini Bullet is compact and ideal for beginners looking to test out teasing vibrations for the first time but is also perfect for anyone wanting a small travel-sized companion for on the go stimulation. 

If anal sex play is your thing and you're wanting something that can be stored anywhere in the home and taken in any purse or bag for naughty weekends away, try the Booty Call-Booty Buzz. It features a discreet yet daring design that features 10 amazing pleasure settings that are operated from one simple push-button controller.  For toe-tingling fun in and out of the bedroom, the vibrating probe makes an ideal choice of probe and intimate massager combined. 

Toy Care:

Keeping erotic accessories clean is crucial for ensuring a healthy sex life. You can and should wash your toys with water and ph balanced soap, but Pjur Toy Clean gives you that added peace of mind. It is completely alcohol free and perfume free and ensures that your toys and accessories are cleaned gently and hygienically. If you are keeping your erotic accessories in your bag or car, always keep them clean, and in a sealable bag so they’re ready for use at any given moment. See our full range of Toy Cleaners.