When the Up & Go, Gets Up & Goes - Sexynews #30

Despite the popular belief than all men have a high sex drive and are obsessed with sex, on the contrary, a growing proportion of men experience a decreasing or complete lack of sex drive altogether.

There are a number of factors that can cause a low sex drive in men. It can be a complicated issue that, if unresolved, may leave a lasting and negative effect on his relationships as well as his self-esteem.

Some of the factors that can affect his sex drive include:

• Psychological issues
• Stress & anxiety from the strain of daily life
• Depression
• Relationship or family problems
• Mental disorders
• Substance abuse
• Hormonal changes
• Poor body image

Medical Conditions:

Medical conditions such as diabetes, high blood pressure, high cholesterol and some medications used to treat depression & hair loss can also play a part in the lack of up and go. Erectile dysfunction and performance stress can not only affect the ability to have intercourse but also how a man feels about his ability to perform. There are many options available to treat erectile dysfunction and your doctor can help find the option that is best for you and your partner.

Seek Help:

The most difficult thing men find about erectile dysfunction is actually speaking about it and reaching out for help. In most instances, he has to be the one to recognise that there’s an issue and seek help for it. How often do doctors ask men about their sexual lives? Unfortunately, the answer may be, not often enough. Leaving the subject off the check-up checklist could mean missing an important link to overall wellness.

Sort Out Your Relationship:

He may also find that a decreased libido is a secondary problem to relationship problems. Sexual desire requires two to tango. Both partners need to feel connected and women especially need the feeling of being close. Poor communication, a sense of betrayal, lack of trust, and repeated fighting and criticism may create a relationship that lacks closeness and intimacy. Counselling may be the answer if couples find that the issues are too tough to resolve on their own.

Make Time to Connect:  

Aside from seeking out counselling, make time to connect with your significant other. Try setting some time aside for you and your partner to reconnect, physically and emotionally. It helps if you can do this regularly. Schedule this time when you and your partner can be alone and uninterrupted. Interruptions can lead to frustration & prevent him from staying in the mood. This little bit of quality time may be all that’s needed to get back your up and go. Be sure to take advantage of this time to get some much needed R&R. A relaxing Massage goes a long way to relaxing those nerves so that you can focus on making the most of your quality time.

Incorporate Erotica: 

Read or watch erotica to help boost arousal before sex. We carry a selection of high quality Adult Movies to get you started. This isn't the only way to seduce those senses. We have an excellent selection of Adult Novels that are sure to spark your imagination. If you find that you’re able to get aroused easily from erotica, you should incorporate it into your regular sex life.

Enhancers & Stimulants:  

Enhancers & Stimulants can be extremely helpful to enhance your libido and gain and maintain an erection.  The Spanish Fly Black Arrow Original  is a revolutionary aphrodisiac and sexual enhancer that is designed to enhance your libido. You could also choose a Desensitising Spray, designed to prolong erections. And of course, there are other methods such as pills that help boost the metabolism and enhance stamina. We offer the safest, best Sexual Enhancers and Stimulants available in Australia.

Foreplay Before You Play:  

Make sex fun and exciting by sending each other steamy texts and photos throughout the day. When night time comes, bring the games into the bedroom by playing a sexy Bondage Game. Have a look at our range of sexy Games & Activities to help get you in the mood!

Erotic Wear:  

If you’re a visual person, as most men are, treat your partner with some Sexy Lingerie. Seeing your partner in some erotic clothing may just be what you need to get your juices flowing. We carry an assortment of sexy Shoes & Stockings to complete the look. Incorporate a bit of role play to take the fun to the next level. We have costumes for men & women that are perfect for couples who want to play out their favourite fantasies.

Getting the Erection:  

The use of a Penis Pump helps to produce an erection by simple mechanical and hydrodynamical action. Penis pumps increase girth by creating a vacuum that enlarges the volume of corpora Cavernosa while increasing the blood flow to the penis. It increases length by stretching the suspensory ligament, creating more elasticity which allows the penis to grow longer. If using a cock ring too, as soon as the vacuum is released, the cock ring needs to be positioned before the erection is lost. The Pumped Elite Pump Advanced PSI was developed as a safe, affordable, non-surgical alternative and will give you a throbbing erection without any adverse side-effects. 

Keeping the Erection:  

If you find it difficult to maintain an erection, Cock Rings can be a useful aid for erectile dysfunction. They can also help you enjoy yourself in the moment and reduce stress about staying erect. This goes a long way to relieving boner-deflating, performance anxiety. Cock Rings work by trapping blood in the penis. This slows the blood flow which helps it stay harder, longer. To use it, simply slide it around your erect penis until it sits at the base. The Pretty Love Vibrant Penis Ring hugs the base of your shaft, keeping you erect for longer while improving your sexual pleasure. Our Skins Performance Rings are extra strong so you can go the extra mile. The instant boost you get from them will increase firmness, increase endurance and create even more intense pleasure.

What Else Can You Do?

• Live a healthier lifestyle.
• Get enough sleep. No one feels like doing much when they’re tired, even sex.
• Reduce alcohol, cheese, sugar and licorice. These will also hurt your performance in the bedroom.
• Practice stress management.
• Sort out stressful relationships.
• Eat some chocolate. Great news for chocolate lovers! Cocoa increases blood flow which aids in stimulation during sex. Chocolate also increases the feel good chemicals, serotonin and dopamine, in the brain.

Life is way too short to be having bad sex or no sex at all. Dealing with what is causing your lack of sex drive will have a positive impact not only on your life, but your partners too.