The Best Fetish Toys & BDSM Gear For Good Little Kinksters With A Thing For Praise

Compliments are generally considered to be a positive, healthy thing to express and receive (so much so that we even have a whole love language revolving around them). Still, for some people in the kink community, a compliment can be a major turn-on!

If you’re a BDSM beginner or just haven’t had the chance to brush up on your knowledge of up-and-coming kinky sex things, you might be under the impression that BDSM is all about strict discipline and threats of punishment at the slightest disobedience, with a generous sprinkling of sadomasochism over the top. Of course, while some people may enjoy imposing and/or meeting such rigid expectations (and more power to you if you’re one of those kinky folks), the Fun Specialists from Sexyland promise that BDSM doesn’t have to be that intense if that’s not what you’re into. In fact, beginner’s BDSM often involves easing the participants into the kink world with compliments that can have a sexually gratifying effect on the person receiving them during sex!

What is a praise kink?

A praise kink is a positive sexual response to receiving words of affirmation, praise, or positive feedback. The person dishing out the praise can give it on its own or in combination with other kinky sex things like inflicting pleasurable amounts of pain (such as spanking), bondage scenes, and roleplay with sexy costumes.

Do I have a praise kink, or do I just really like compliments?

The difference between having a praise kink and just being super into compliments comes down to how you respond internally. Most people regard receiving praise and compliments from a partner as a pleasant experience, but not everyone has a strong sexual response to it. If you find yourself becoming aroused by a partner’s praise, your enjoyment goes beyond just appreciating a compliment and is pretty likely a praise kink.

Another interesting distinction to note is the one between kink and fetish — these two terms are often used interchangeably but they are technically two distinct terms since kinks refer to someone having sexual appreciation for a certain element, whereas a fetish refers to when a person needs that element to be present in order to become aroused at all. What defines a praise kink is if you have one, you get turned on by receiving compliments, whereas if you absolutely need compliments to get turned on, it’s more likely that you have a fetish.

Praise kink phrase ideas

If said in a gentle and/or adoring tone of voice, just about anything can be said and taken as praise, but if you need some extra inspiration, here are some of Sexyland’s favourite ideas for praise kink phrases to say in bed:

Praise kink ideas involving BDSM tools

Cuffs & restraints for bondage scenes

Bondage involves a great deal of intimate trust in each other since one partner will not be able to move their body how they normally would and the other person must rely solely on their partner’s word that they’re happy and comfortable. If you’re both curious about bondage and consent to exploring the realm of ropes, restraints, and cuffs together, you can spice it up even more by telling the tied-up partner something like:

• how they look like a perfect gift, wrapped up so nice and tight just for you
• how much you enjoy seeing them in such a deliciously helpless position
• what good care you’ll take of them while they’re at your mercy

Collars, leashes & gags for affectionate discipline & obedience

The appeal of wearing any of these fetish toys is the implied power imbalance/ownership, and for some, there can also be a kinky sexual humiliation element! Some good praise kink ideas to combine with these BDSM toys include:

• telling the wearer how beautiful/handsome they look in the BDSM gear you picked out just for them/they picked out just for you
• promising a reward(s) during and/or at the end of the scene for the wearer being so obedient
• reminding the wearer that even though they’re in a vulnerable position, you know they can handle themselves and that you will be there to ensure they have just as much fun as you will

Floggers, riding crops & spanking paddles for impact play

Impact play is a commonly practised component of BDSM, and there’s plenty of praise to be dished out here! You can tell your partner:

• that they’re taking whatever you’re giving them so well
• that their skin looks beautiful as it takes on new colour with every impact
• how much you adore the look of desperate yearning in their eyes as they anticipate the next strike

Ready to be good in bed? Check out Sexyland’s online range of BDSM and fetish sex toys or shop at any of our adult store locations and ask our friendly Fun Specialists for personalised advice on all things kinky and sexy!